You’ve tried making changes before
You've read the books. Maybe you've done therapy, changed jobs, changed cities, ended things. And the pattern is still here — the same fight in different places, the same argument with yourself, a life that looks right in photos and feels like it belongs to someone else.
You don't need more coping skills. You need to understand what's actually driving the pattern, and to practice something different.
Who I Work With
Stuck in a pattern you can't shift
Maybe it shows up as anxiety, or low mood, or a question in the background about whether ADHD or autism is part of your story. What looks like a flaw is usually something you learned to do, for reasons that are hard to see from the inside. Understanding where it came from is what makes a different response possible.
Couples having the same fight on repeat
By now you can both name the pattern. Naming it hasn't changed it. I work with couples who are smart, self-aware, and still stuck — whether married, partnered, dating, open, or poly. The work is finding what the fight is about, then practicing a different move when the moment arrives.
People whose lives don't follow the default script
Many of my clients are LGBTQ+, non-monogamous, or kink-identifying. You won't spend your sessions educating me or translating your relationships. This is a specialization I've trained in and a core part of my practice.
When the life you built stops feeling like yours
You did the things you were supposed to, and there's a flatness you can't explain or optimize your way out of. We look at what got left behind while you were busy, and what you actually want next.
Why work with me?
Before becoming a therapist, I spent years in tech, startups, and the arts. I've been in rooms where everyone was impressive and half of us were quietly wondering whether the life we’d built was really it. This deep experience is why my clients say sessions feel like real conversations that go somewhere, not fifty minutes of being nodded at.
Ready to talk?
Start with a free 30-minute consultation. If I'm not the right fit, I'll refer you to someone who is.
Serving clients across California
I’m based in the East Bay. We can meet at my office in Albany, CA, your East Bay home or office, or online if you're anywhere in California.