How I Work
You Want Change, Not Just Understanding
I'm not interested in having you just talk about your problems for months on end. You're smart enough to understand what's happening - what you need are practical tools to actually change it.
Here's how we'll work together:
We start by understanding your attachment patterns and the stories that shape how you show up in relationships and life. This isn't about blame or pathology - it's about recognizing that your responses made sense given what you experienced.
Your anxiety, relationship patterns, or feeling stuck aren't character flaws - they're intelligent adaptations that served you well at some point. Now we need to figure out which ones still serve you and which ones need updating..
1. Understand What's Actually Happening
2. Build New Responses
In our work, you'll learn to recognize what's driving stuck behaviors and develop new ways to respond. We're not just talking about change - you're actively practicing it.
This might involve understanding different parts of yourself (the part that avoids conflict vs. the part that wants connection), rewriting limiting stories you tell yourself, or building practical skills for handling anxiety or relationship challenges.
3. Create Lasting Change
Real change happens when you can take what we discover in sessions and use it in your actual life. We'll work collaboratively to design experiments, practice new responses, and build on what's working.
My Approach: What I Draw From
I use whatever works for your specific situation. Rather than forcing you into one therapeutic model, I draw from several approaches:
Understanding how your early relationships shaped your ways of connecting - not as fixed patterns, but as adaptive strategies you can consciously choose to keep or change.
Attachment Theory
(Dynamic Maturational Model)
Recognizing that we all have different parts of ourselves (the people-pleaser, the perfectionist, the critic) and learning how to coordinate them rather than being run by them.
Parts Work
(Internal Family Systems)
Narrative Therapy
Examining the stories you tell about yourself and your life, then actively rewriting the ones that keep you stuck. You're the author of your life story - let's make it a good one.
Looking at how social and cultural factors impact your experience. Sometimes what looks like individual problems are actually intelligent responses to real systemic challenges.
Power, Threat, Meaning Framework
How I Work With Specific Issues
Feeling Stuck
Being stuck usually means you're caught between competing needs or stories.
We'll identify what's creating the internal conflict and develop ways to move forward that honor all parts of yourself.
Anxiety
Your anxiety is trying to protect you
The question is whether it's protecting you from real threats or imagined ones. We'll work to understand what your anxiety is responding to and develop more nuanced ways to handle uncertainty and risk.
Relationship Patterns
You keep ending up in the same situations because your attachment system is running old programs.
We'll update those programs so you can create the kinds of connections you actually want.
Life Transitions
When your usual strategies stop working, it's often because you're outgrowing them.
We'll help you navigate transitions without losing what you've built while creating space for who you're becoming.
Depression
Depression tells a very limited story about your life.
We'll work to notice the ways you're already resisting depression and author a counter-story that gives you access to more vitality and meaning.
Ready to stop being stuck?
Let’s figure out what’s keeping you there and do something about it.